Question#1:I have some high school friends who have no problem talking about sex and having sex. As soon as I hear these conversations start I leave, but the ones that I stay for I tell them it’s wrong and they don’t care. What Should I do?
Question#2:I have a friend at church who told me she will be having sex with people by the time she’s 15. She watches nasty things on the computer, and I don’t know what to say to her. Please help!
To deal with these issues, I think we need to begin with Proverbs 20:5 which says “The purposes of a man’s heart are deep waters, it takes a man of understanding to draw them out.
In order to find out why people do things and what makes them tick, you have to invest in that person and, as I have learned, just to ask questions. If the people you are referring to claim to be Christians, ask them basic questions like:
1. Please define in your own words, what is a Christian? Does this match up with what scripture says? Romans 3:23, Romans 6:23, Romans 5:8, Romans 10:9-10
2. If their understanding of a Christian matches up with the Bibles definition of a Christian ask: What does the Bible say about your lifestyle? Lets take a look. Ephesians 5:3
3. What is your goal with this type of behavior and choices? What are you trying to accomplish?
4. Have you thought about the consequences by choosing to live this way? What might happen to your body with this lifestyle?
The proverb says “the man with understanding draws them out.” Its all about making people think. Without the Holy Spirit to guide people, their feet will be quick to rush to sin because it gratifies the sinful nature. People don’t think long term. It is a Christians responsibility to show people why Gods ways are best. When we do that, we put a “pebble in the shoe” of the person. Making them think about choices they are making.